at the GORGEOUS Allegany State Park. Lots to comment on. I am DISMAYED by my dependence on thongs that need to be plugged in and all things that have a screen. Cell phones, MP# players , laptops and gameboys… ARGh.
Thought it was just Americans that brutalized there innocent children – as every time I go to States camping I encountered a horror of some kind . Perfectly nice women who confess to me they have ping pong paddle in there trailer to swat their 3 year old when they get “too excited” YIKES!!!! Last year at Wal-Mart interceded when woman was holding her hand over 1 year old’s mouth to get her to stop crying…
Well, we were across from a 2 groups of Canadians and owe a BIG Apology- it is NOT just Americans.. it must be either campers (!) or non-homeschooling families.
These people treated their kids so roughly and without kindness it stunned me.
My daughter was playing with one of their little girls, she was about 9. They were doing a craft and then out of the blue she says to me- ” Is it true you don’t swat , E ( my daughter) ? ”
I have never been directly asked this, and I had to think about her well-being.. let her no that no child deserved to be hit and at the same time not let her feel shame for her parent and her plight… was very difficult situation for me. I am huge advocate of children’s rights – especially their right not to be assaulted- and I do believe that spanking or physically punishing a child in anyway is an assault- just as it would be my husband used a wooden spoon or slapped me. But I digress..
My husband shot me look because I think he thought I might go off on tangent and forget I was talking to a little child who clearly loved her parents.
I hope i didn;t cop out. I told her that I did not think it was ever okay to hit a child and that in our family it was not an option. ( We don’t even practise “punishment” but that is another post..) .
She asked even when E lost something i didnt hit her? ( Yikes) and said that if she couldn’t find her sock that her mom said it was wasteful and would smack her if she couldn’t find it… OMG. My heart ached for this child. I told her no. That each family had different rules and principle.
I was quite disturned by the talk… the two families drank literally day and night and the kids seemed to be an afterthought. The times they spoke to them were to yell at them – even yelling at their 10 year old when he fell on his bike and was bleeding.
I dont know what I wouldhave done if I had witnessed them hitting their kids.
Anyway.. my heart broke again when the little girl cam back to me the next day and asked me the same question ” Is it really true that you dont even slap her ? ” What the hell kind of world do we live in when a little girl cannot even grasp that not every child is hit or slapped or humiliated by the one person that should protect them. God help us.
I wouls like to hear jhow toehrs would have handeled the situation. If you are against spanking how woould you explain to a child or explain to a child living in a fanily that regularily hits and threatens to hit?
Note: Any pro-spanking comments won’t make it .. Dont waste your time even posting as I wont read it- they will go straight to SPAM..I will not read past them and neither will anyone else.