This time of year seems to be a tough one for my kids. About a week before all the neighbourhood kids go back to school I notice a real shift in my daughter’s temperament. She is VERY social and nothing makes her happier than to be playing with a friend or two. We have countless sleepovers and parties and things to feed her need to be around other kids. This year was harder than others. She made a BFF. The kind of best friend you read about and wish you had.. they have been inseparable all summer. Best friend necklaces and walks to corner store, sleepovers, painting each other’s toes, trying new hair styles and sharing secrets.
My daughter, who is 10 has been dreading today all week. The party is literally over- her best friend went back to school today.
She has been out of sorts for a few days , moody and at times even rude. It finally dawned on me what was going on. He best friend, B. was starting school and the summer was officially over.
All of her friends have been shopping for school uniforms, school supplies, and the hoopla. We can’t leave a cash register without a cashier asking us ” So are you ready to back to school? ” . Starting to understand now how my Jewish husband must have felt around Christmas growing up= when it seems the whole world is embarking on something you aren’t .
I have been able to combat some of the feelings of not belonging. First off- honouring her feelings. Letting her be sad. It IS sad! The end of summer means lots of changes- no more outdoor BBQ’s and lazy days by the pool and camping trips. It means the start of lots of other cool stuff but when you are 10 it is a BIG deal.
We also went back to school shopping.. sort of. We freshen up our crafts supplies- bought new markers and paints and pencil crayons, etc. I gave her some money to buy new clothes. ( this is a new thing- giving her money and letting her buy her own clothes) and took her shopping. We are singing for new classes and going back to old ones.
I have also come up with a plan to host a “tween day” at our home once a month for other homeschool girls in the area. I am planning to do crafts ( candle making, scrapbooking, paper quilling, etc) , maybe some baking and see what other things they would like to do.
Do your kids have hard time when their friends go back to school? Do you have any ideas for coping? Please share with us!