From the blog: Soren’s Purple Binky
Unschooling is the opposite of “homeschooling” or trying to replicate a traditional Western classroom in your kitchen. If that’s what you wanted, heck, find a school. We unschool because we want our daughter’s delight, motivation, and natural talents put to any use she wishes. We don’t want to stop her from playing ABC’s all flipping day because it’s “time” to move on to something new. But we *do* stop the game because WE CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE/the baby needs attention/it’s naptime/the dishwasher is full. Many would toss us from the club. Especially those who all themselves Radical Unschoolers — those who set no agenda on their children’s education, and are often criticized that their kids spend all day playing video games. All unschoolers seem to scoff at those parents who say, “We unschool, except for math and reading” which they require of their children.
I find it funny to read other people take on unschooling and how they define it. For me, unschooling is is like trying to define when picture of a naked woman is art and when it it is obscene- I know it when I see it.
I would classify myself as a Radical Unschooling . I tend to think of unschooling as a whole life philosophy and as an ideal to strive for. … Trying to live it and examining failures when they happen.
Unschooling doesnt mean you break your back trying to everything for your kids even if you are going insane. It means finding a way so everyone can have their needs met and no one goes crazy. This is an ideal.
For example , on the weekend I yelled at my daughter- I was way out of line. A girlfriend of mine ( a non-unschooler but a good friend non-the less :) ) was laughing about it, commiserating not with my daughter- but me. Laughing about hormones and how the kids will drive you crazy and I’m human, etc. From where I stand its not really what I want to hear. I dont want to be told- its okay- you’re human- but more of a here is what happened and this is how things could have been handled differently.
I think of it the same way as if my daughter were to hit her much younger brother .. I would never tell her- its okay- he was driving you crazy, etc. But talk out a different way of handling it next time .
So yelling – is NEVER okay in our home . Does it mean I won’t yell? No- but I will be sorry and aim to do better next time.