My daughter had a friend come stay the night last week and she ended up staying 4 days :-) I have been actively- make that aggressively- cultivating more unschool friends for her the last 2 weeks. We have had more then a few incidents now provoked by trying to fit into cliques of the neighbourhoods schooled kids.
My daughter is VERY social , very extroverted and likes to play ALL day with other kids. I am not exaggerating by any mean, IN the Summer things are great with all the kids around but the rest of the year I have to really work at her social life :-)
Sleepovers by far the are the best thing that ever happened to her. It is a bit difficult because homeschoolers and even unschoolers tend to have very busy lives OR they are pretty rigid. We are very free-flowing and tend to make our lives built around relationships. ( Sign on my door used to say- ” In This House We do Relationship Work Before Housework” .. One of my husband’s neat freak husbands used to come by and look around- then say ” Well Lisa- guess the relationships are going pretty well! :-) ”
Last week we had this girl- we have known her for several years but they two never really connected and just recently they have really bonded and become close.
So a couple of nights ago were all snuggled up in the blanket watching TV and I was listening to there conversation… E. was saying she felt she didn’t really fit in anywhere- that the school kids made fun of her and quizzed her all the time and her friend said “Ya- me too!” Then E. said “Well I don’t think i really fit in with homeschooled kids either- I don’t really like tie-dye and I like fashionable clothes (!!!!) ”
Her friend said- “What are you talking about – You have Homeschool Hair! Its all messy like mine ! :-)” My daughter got a HUGE grin on her face and they both went into gales of laughter… Later on I overheard E. say – ” You know what- you are really making me good about being homeschooled! ”