There has been heated response to my post about Sarah Palin and how I thought she should be with her kids. Many women are angry that finally the glass ceiling is being shattered and woman are not embracing Sarah Palin,
Sarah F. comments:
I am also sorry that your mother was not there for you, but her lack of ability to balance her personal and work lives should not reflect on the potential ability of others to do so with success. In addition, I have yet to see the GOP or anyone for that matter, advertise Palin’s family as a big selling point. In fact, the media has been desperately trying to use her family against her — stating that she must be an unfit mother because she has a high profile career (although I never hear them talking about Michelle Obama’s workaholic ways and how they interfere with her ability to parent her children — why the double standard?). Surely you agree that the GOP and Sarah Palin have every right to defend her choices as a rubbutal to these unsubstantiated/presumptive attacks.
What I really don’t understand is how the feminists of the world can spend over a hundred years fighting for equal rights for women, declaring that women deserve a place in corporate and political America, but as soon as a conservative female seeks that role, she is bashed for being a poor mother and role model. I have never seen a more obvious double-standard, completely based in the party politics that so many Americans claim to abhore. It is disturbing to say the least. We don’t know anything about her relationship with her children, yet so many people are jumping on the “she’s a bad mother” bandwagon JUST because she’s a conservative. I have never been more disappointed in the media than I am right now.
Sarah F. raised some good points. Are we stay at home radical uinschooling/ attachment parenting moms anti-feminist? Can you be a feminist and a SAHM? Can I be a feminsit and still think Sarah Palin needs to not run for Vice President?
There is no easy answer for this. Many moms do sit around and roll their eye balls at moms who chose to work. The SAHM vs WAHM debate rages on. Obviously moms who are home think they are doing the right thing and being with their kids. It is their opinion- doesn’t mean they are right.
I personally think children under the age of 3 need to be with their moms and nto in day care or with a nanny. I think if you choose to have kids then this is what all kids deserve. I do not think you can be an effective parent and work full time out of the home with younger kids.
I am not trying to hurt anyone’s feeling or attack working moms or single moms. I think a 2 parent family is the ideal. I think parent living together is the ideal. I think one parent at home with young kids id the ideal.
I do not think you can have it all. I don’t think you can have it all. If you choose a carer that requires long night nights and endless days aways from home then you should chose not to have kids OR or your husband can stay home OR you can switch gears.
I do not think moms who work are bad mothers. I think they are doing the best they can in the condition we as a society have given them. We have created a consumer economy that has forced most families to earn dual incomes. We have created an atmosphere of buying buying and more buying and it cannot be sustained with one income.
In the case of Sarah Palin I think think she has chosen a career path that contradicts good parenting of YOUNG children. I am shocked that people think she can do both well.
I work about 10 hours week and that is about as much as I can manage. ( I by mange I don’t mean keeping my house clean or driving kids around- I mean having an emotiohnal connection to my kids, my husband and my friends and family)
I do not think it is okay to throw yourself into a presidential election when you have a special needs baby and a teenage daughter who needs you. The time your pregnant teenage daughter is vulnerable and scared and has worked up the courage to ask you something or may not be the time you have penciled her in.
How many of us moms have been doing dishes or driving in the car with one of their kids when they have dropped a bombshell?
I am not against Sarah Palin for office. I am against her running for office right now. I am against ANY mom going back to work full time with a young or nursing baby. I am not holier than thou or think they are “bad” people. Our society is set up to undermine women.
In Switzerland mothers get 3 years maternity leave. I believe the average in United States in 3 weeks. This is criminal. and unfair to woman. The aswer is not to blame woman for being BAD mother but to support mothers who are staying at home with young children and babies – with fair maternity leave and community support.
The GOP are using Sarah Palin’s mothering to sell her. You cannot pick up a magazine or see a tv clip without it mentioned that she is a self-professed “hockey mom”. She is being sold to middle America.
I do not agree with her decision to run for office and put her family under the scrutiny of the media. She made a choice. I do not agree that that a mom with 4 month old baby should be working 80 hour work weeks over the next few months. I do not agree that a woman with a 17 year old daughter who is pregnant should be taking on a job that will have her focus split.
I will say it again0 I hold men up to the same standard. Infidelities aside, John Edwards never should have continued running for office when his wife and family needed him.